Everything is in us and we are constantly projecting on the other our state. This can be emotions, a vibration, a fear... let's See how to take back control in our relationships with others, and in our life. The main work is to understand how we function in and out of our automation, or even distance themselves from our way of feeling things.

What can I learn from my relationship with others ?

there is several ways to be aware of his state, and thus distance themselves from what is projected on the other. For example, if I auto-judge permanently, I will probably have a tendency to judge the other also. If I'm ever in the area in my way of understanding my emotions, I often find myself with people who look like me. When I meet people that work in the reverse, I will have to go in my depth to resolve a conflict, for example.

Often things happen in a natural way without you decide to consciousness. From the moment when the consciousness is raised, you understand much faster what is in-depth and can thus put an end to the repeating patterns.

The impact of dance on my perception of the Other

Dancing face to someone, I dive deep into my vulnerability. This may bring to the surface a lot of emotions : on the feeling of the gaze of the Other, but also and especially on my own look at me. Dance-therapy allows you to explore this dynamic, safe, and evolve in its relation to oneself and to others.

Planting his gaze in that of the other and look at themselves, face-to-face, without moving, is one of the most intense experiences you can live in during dance-therapy. It is like a stripped bare, where the entire shell melts like snow in the sun, because with the look, no one can hide anything : it is simply itself.

At the beginning, look at a person in the eyes without saying anything can cause a lot of emotions : the eyes of the other are the reflection of her soul, which is the reflection of our own soul. You look at his soul in the mirror of the eyes of the other. The more you practice, the more the gaze fixed on the other – and thus a real self – is serene, gentle and caring. This benevolence that it develops for the other is also acquired for himself.

Mirror : I dance, I dance for me

Dance-therapy in a group is often conducive to the time to dance in pairs. A fiscal year may be, inter alia, the exchange of dance. I dance for the Other, which receives motionless, and then Another dance for me while I am still.

Answer the following questions is most enlightening in its own relationship with the dynamic "give/get" :

• Is that I am comfortable when I offer you a dance ? What is my relationship with the “give” ? Is it that I feel that I am naked ? Is it bother me ? Or is it that, on the contrary, I'm well-when someone looks at me, I love him to reveal a part of me ?
• How I feel when I get a dance ? Is it that I allow myself to receive that gift by being fully present to the other ? Is it that I'm not good with my own stillness, is what I ask myself lots of questions about what I see ?

All these questions will help us to make the link between what I saw in a dance class, and what I feel in my life when I am in a similar situation. 

After having experienced this type of experience, take the time to integrate the emotions it generated. Do not hesitate to write back for you, to fully take advantage of these teachings.

Soften his gaze on the other, it is, in the mirror, softening his gaze on itself.

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Adaptation to the blog of "The Unification of the self" by Pascale Saly-Giocanti. More inspiring content on Instagram : @per_se_nota

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